Category: relationships

UNDEFINED

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Ever find yourself in the middle of a group of people and not sure where you fit?

Have a math problem to solve only to find the denominator is zero? šŸ˜…šŸ¤Ŗ

Let your imagination run a bit too wild and now youā€™re not sure where reality and your own imagination collide..? šŸ¤·šŸ½ā€ā™€ļø

Have a crush on someone and not sure how they feel about you?

Ever feel like something in life is just undefined?

If Iā€™m being completely honest I have…LOTS of times.

When my life feels undefined (and it did quite recently šŸ™ƒ) these are the things that I remind myself of:

I am not defined by:

āƒ My income

āƒ My job title

āƒ My address

Or even:

āƒ my relationship status

āƒ the # of friends I do or donā€™t have

āƒ My Saturday plans

āƒ The compliments I do or donā€™t receive

Because the truth is Iā€™ve already been DEFINED by the creator of the universe….and if Iā€™m being completely honest, for me thatā€™s definition enough.

EVERYONE HAS A STORY.

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But you already knew thatā€¦

And our stories often intertwine to create relationships some deep and others superficial, but you probably already knew that tooā€¦

But Iā€™ve been thinking about that a lot latelyā€¦

How everyone has a storyā€¦

And it caused me to reflect on the first seven months of this year — the first 7 months of my story called 2017ā€”and if my 2017 story had a title, itā€™d probably be called Relationships. With a subtitle about being better in them or something like that. Because it seems like Iā€™ve been constantly challenged to extend love when I donā€™t want to, or to be considerate when I wish a little more consideration was extended to me or to just simply forgiveā€¦

And oftentimes when Iā€™m tempted to judge someone elseā€™s story by the way that theirs impacted mine, I have to remind myself thatĀ simply isnā€™t fair!

Because if I was being completely honest, their impact on my story is just a small part of their story.

And their story isnā€™t finished being told.

And I donā€™t always have the privilege of having read the previous chapters of their story- of having seen how others impacted it.

And who am I to judge anyway!?

Because if not today, then possibly tomorrow, I may negatively impact someone elseā€™s story with an unkind word or short response or inconsiderate action… And if I donā€™t want to be defined by my less than perfect moments, then I probably shouldnā€™t define others by theirsā€¦

So these first 7 months of 2017 have taught me this simple lesson:

Itā€™s unfair to define someone elseā€™s story simply by the way theirs impacted yoursā€¦because if we were being completely honest, thereā€™s more to their storyā€¦

ā€¦and I do so hope that the rest of their story turns out to be AMAZING!ā€